It was slightly debated whether or not or when we would tell B’s kids about this pregnancy. There are no guarantees with any pregnancy however I could not picture myself telling them over text or FaceTime. I could not picture telling them when we see them in person next around the holidays. I did not want to keep my pregnancy a secret for what would be the majority of pregnancy.

B did note he would prefer if we did not tell the kids as he did not want anyone to rain on our happiness. We cannot control others though I know I am happy and want to share this joy with the ones I love.

Going through IVF everything is so calculated. I knew from the beginning that based on our consultation transfer would occur between June and August. I have been planning all the scenarios and once we got our transfer date released to us I knew I would almost be finished with my first trimester.

When I first met B’s kids they said when you get pregnant tell us with T-shirts with Big Brother and Big Sister. Well that was several years ago and now as pre-teens I did not think they would enjoy that. However I did want to utilize sentimental shirts. B acknowledged that this the only pregnancy I will likely get to have. B agreed he would not be upset if I told the kids.

My friend made our announcement shirts and I ordered a bandana for our dog. B and I went to an ultrasound boutique for an updated glimpse at our baby and to have something to share with our announcement. We also have a heart beat recording.

The shirts were laid out on our bed. I asked the kids to come as I had new pajamas for them. B’s daughter started crying happy tears and gave me a hug. B’s son said “I knew it all the signs were there!” You know kids being kids going into parents room. Plus hiding a pregnancy pillow is kind of hard.

The kids put on their shirts to go tell their cousin, B’s nephew, the news. He was excited as well though had no idea. That was funny to me because he was aware we were doing IVF. The kids do not know about IVF but are happy to have another sibling on the way. B appears happy as well to experience that moment. B even told the kids the gender! We’ll see how long this surprise can stay between us until announcements are mailed out to family.

-A